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Can I have a successful career and a relationship?

Updated: May 16, 2019

When you have a challenging and demanding job, it can be difficult to also find the time to devote your attention and energy to a relationship and sadly it's so often the case that the career wins over the relationship.

Our 5 tips can help you find a happy balance and to have success in both your work and personal life.

1. Tell your partner from the start that your job carries certain commitments

Communication is key to relationships. Many jobs require long working hours, night and weekend shifts, and last minute deadlines, so it's important that your partner understands the demands of your job from the beginning. This will help prevent them from feeling that you are choosing your work over them and misunderstandings between you both. If your work involves you being on call for example, they need to understand from the start that you might have to drop any social plans at the last minute because you are needed at work.

2. Learn to say no

When appropriate, it is important to be able to delegate your work responsibilities and sometimes to say no. Your career might be one of your highest priorities but it is key to find a healthy balance and not to always say yes to every project that comes your way. Over-working yourself can lead to burnout and being able to take time out and enjoy leisure time is essential for the well-being of you personally and for your relationship.

3. Make Your Relationship a Priority

Successful relationships require effort and it can at times be easier to prioritise work over your partner. To have a healthy relationship with your partner, it's important to understand that your relationship also needs your time and attention. This means that keeping to commitments has to be just as important, if not even more so, than any work commitment. If you give your word to your loved one, it's truly significant that you keep it if you value your relationship.

4. Leave Work at Work

We all know that it can be a challenge to find a happy balance between your work and your relationship, but a valuable tip is to leave whatever happened at work behind you at work. Make sure that your time with your partner isn't merely an opportunity for you to go on about your work. Clearly it's important that you are open and honest with your partner and that you feel able to talk about your day or how you're feeling, but it can become a real issue when every single conversation revolves around your work. If you find that you're always in a bad mood when you're with your partner because of what happened at work, this may mean that you need to find a new job. Certainly if you value your relationship.

5. Don't Be Distracted When You're With Your Partner

If you're trying to find the right balance between your career and your relationship, another important step is to make the most of the time that you get to spend with your partner. And that means rather than focusing on your mobile, responding to work emails and texting your friends, you should place an emphasis on being fully present when you are together. This will mean that the time you spend together is truly meaningful, rather than you being disconnected and distracted from each other even when you're with each other. Although it can be a difficult thing to do, simply putting your phone away and focusing completely on your partner can be one of the best ways to find real balance between your work life and your love life.

These simple tips really can make a significant difference to your life as a whole - it really is possible to balance your career and your relationship.


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