Six tips for making your (relationship) anniversary special

Anniversaries are supposed to be a celebration of the love between two partners. It's not just a marriage thing; it's a human thing. Not belittling any who is married - I'm getting married next year, and I am looking forward to it. Fundamentally though, anniversaries are a true celebration. My personal opinion is that anniversaries are the most important (of all important) annual events.

It is a chance to focus on, reflect and appreciate our time together, the friendship, the partnership and physical bond that is shared.

How do you find time to celebrate? How can I afford it with everything else that we do together all year round?

I have faith that this blog will help plan your next anniversary and the next, and the next, and the... You get the point.

Why Are They Important?

Before we swan dive into “how”, let’s look at the “why”. As I said a moment ago, anniversaries don't necessarily need to be wedding/marriage related; they can be an anniversary of a relationship too. April 5th is doubly important to me as this is when Electra and I got together, this is when I proposed, and this is when will be wed. My point is, the date is not something you fell on to, it wasn't an accident, it was a choice. Marking the day, you chose someone to be your significant other.

Time does fly by, and our commitments to each other grow all the time. Actually, you could say that it thickens. It thickens like a big pot of warm, nourishing and satisfying soup. So thick that sometimes we forget why we chose that particular someone and why we continue to nurse this pot of soup.

We can fall into the trap of only seeing the negatives and focus on trying to change the person. We should focus on the appreciation of the positives. That is precisely why celebrating anniversaries are essential. If it weren't for all the positives that we fell in love with in the first place, we wouldn't be here cooking up this pot of soup. We would still be chasing our quick fix, one shot cuppa soups.

Some might say these cuppa soups are beautiful and tasty, but let's face it nothing beats the making, consuming and feeling of a pot of soup has been made with pour love.

Anniversaries are great chance to spoil each other with tiny “bowls" of celebrations.

1. Take a Trip Together

It doesn't matter if you choose to plan it together or to surprise your partner with a fancy trip away, taking a trip is always a fantastic way to celebrate anything, let alone an anniversary.

If you are on the side of surprising your partner, well that is a little more complicated. Here are a handful of things to think about:

If you’re planning a wee trip over a weekend, or a few days when your partner doesn't need to be at work you can delay announcing to them until the very last minute. On the other hand, you could ask them to take a few days off, but hold off telling them why or where you’re going.

Plan your budget ahead of time. If your budget is tight, don't sweat it. Just go somewhere closer or for a shorter time so you can enjoy the time you spend there.

Help your partner pack their bag, trust me you regret it if you don't help. They have no idea what to take with them as they have no idea what’s going on or where they are going.

2. Buy something together!

People often give surprise gifts and arrange their celebration independently. You are celebrating your togetherness, why do that alone? We are all adults here so if there is something substantial, perhaps expensive that you both want, use the occasion to go for it. It could be the 60-inch 4K Smart TV you have both been eyeing up or the new decking for out back. Do it together as you will be enjoying it together.

You are a good person and partner, and you will agree to disagree or settle on things so that you can have an easy life; on this occasion though don't just agree. You have a trust and faith in each other, which is great, keep that up. On this date though, it's about you both.

3. Re-vowing

If you are married, and have been for many years, you have an anniversary celebration option that many people regularly choose: repeating your vows.

I have recently come to understand that some married couples do it every single year! I think that is really beautiful. I fully appreciate also that many married couples can live their entire married lives without repeating their vows and still enjoy a healthy and happy relationship, it is a neat way recreating your wedding in a more casual, less stressed environment with only your close friends and or family.